It's hard to even know how to start this since I don't talk about it with anyone. In 2014 I had a beautiful baby girl, she's my world. Since then I've had two miscarriages. Anytime I express sadness over this loss I am made to feel guilty, so I keep it inside now. I have a bicornuate uterus which makes pregnancy very difficult, my girl is literally a miracle for which I am so very grateful. I just never thought I'd have only one little one. I don't want to give up but I can't handle the heartbreak, the judgement about being upset about not having more children. I know people don't mean anything by it when they say "You've already got one."
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I'm so happy you're here Jessica! I pray you find other women to talk to here that have or are currently experiencing the same thing. You are not alone!
I completely understand. I had my son in 2015 and have been trying to have another for the last 2 years+ We found out I have low AMH (low ovarian reserve) and feel like our first son is such a miracle. I totally get the “you already have one” comment and then I also feel guilty for “complaining” when I know others struggle to have 1 child. It’s such a hard place to be, feeling super blessed and sad at the same time, while still trying to be present for your one child.
Yes! It's such a conflicting feeling because on one hand I'm so blessed with my daughter but i don't feel complete and it makes me feel guilty for even saying that. When I had my miscarriages I was told repeatedly not to be sad that I already had one, that I should be grateful. I think what's so hard is I am grateful but I still mourn the loss of those two little souls.
Hi everyone 👋🏻 I’m in the same boat here. But instead of the ”you’ve got one” I’m getting ”how could you leave your son (9yrs) be an only child“. The pressure I’m getting and it’s making the crappy journey even worse every month on month.
I have come the conclusion that people just don't think. They speak without thinking. I'm sorry you're going through that and I'm sending virtual hugs your way.