I am new to sharing my story online, but I already find it helpful. I haven’t talked about being a step parent because it feels unique and I get nervous I will isolate myself. There are some challenges as an infertile step mom, but mostly I feel like my step son has been helping me get through it (even though we haven’t told him about what’s going on).
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Hi there, I also have step kids. 4 of them in fact. I can understand how you might feel. I don't really talk a lot about it either, mostly because they are grown up... the youngest is 21 lol... my husband was a very young father. I hope if you want to chat more you know I'm here for you. This community has gotten me through some tough times.
I have two step sons who are 7 and 11. It has been hard to deal with infertility when my husband has kids but I desire my own. His ex isn’t nice about it either... to make things worse we don’t have them often because of things she has done to keep them away so he aches for them the way I do for some of my own.
Stepmom of one boy here! I think the hardest part of this infertility journey for my husband and myself was connecting. He has a child, and therefore as hard as he tried to be there for me emotionally, he never fully understood how I felt. There are a lot of insensitive things people say (most times, not realizing it’s hurtful) to someone struggling with infertility, like “maybe it’s part of God‘s plan for you to do other things and not be a mom”. To hear things like that from my life partner, my closest person, made me feel alone a lot.
Oh! Another hard part was my stepsons bio mom, who gave up custody to my husband when stepson was a baby, so that she could continue cheating and pursuing a “career” as a dancer, just had her 4th baby at 40-something years old. Not gonna lie, that irked me, although I know it shouldn’t!
It’s nice to know others are in the same boat. Happy Thursday ladies ❤️